I’m sure you’ve all heard this question (and, perhaps, even asked this question): why do bad things happen to good people? It’s so easy to ask this question especially when you see so many good people hurting–young lives lost, miscarriages, divorces, sudden and traumatic losses, loss of a job, and the list just keeps on going. I’ll be honest, even I asked this question at one point. Why did I have to become a widow at such a young age when I’ve been a good person?
I came across a picture, a while ago, which stated, “Why do bad things happen to good people? That only happened once, and He volunteered.” Wow. Talk about a reality check. Anytime I even start to throw myself a pity party, I think about this statement. Christ is the only perfectly good person to have ever stepped on this earth–if anyone did not deserve the hatred, insults, beatings, accusations, trials, heartaches… it would be Him.
I’ve said this often–Romans 8:28 is one of my most favorite scriptures (and it is even on the back of Jake’s headstone). “And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to His purpose.” I am sure you are thinking, why in the world is this Becki’s favorite verse? What’s the point of holding on to God when you keep getting knocked down in life? What’s the point of this verse? It is my opinion that people just do not understand this verse at all. It’s not saying that if you love God and keep His commandments, then everything in your life will be rosy and sunshine-y. You will face trials, you will face heartaches, you will face temptations, you will face persecution, and you will face bad things. Yes, you’re a good Christian person, but that does not mean you are exempt from “bad” things happening.
And, you know what? God has promised us that He is right there with us when we go through tough times in life. I have seen SOOOO much good come out of the horribleness of Jake’s untimely death. People have been baptized and have been inspired to be a better child of God. I have become a strong Christian woman. He is leading me down a new career path to be a counselor (and I believe I was always meant to be one). Even though it’s hard to see in the moment, God is there, and He is placing stepping stones in front of you to help you through this mess. And along the way, if you choose to see it, you learn important lessons and beautiful messages appear out of all the messiness.
So, bad things don’t happen to good people and good things don’t happen to bad people. Life just happens. The question is–how do you plan to cope with it? Will you crumble at the first sign of trouble? Will you hate God for doing “this” to you? Will you hate others because they are not going through “this” or that their life seems so easy? Or, will you allow God to help you through the storm? Will you lean on others for support? For me, I know that all things will work together for good… because one day, I’m going home.